Nursing by Paul Joannides
wants me to lactate for him. I am not pregnant
nor have I ever been and I don't know how to
lactate. I don't know if it's safe or if it is
going to turn me into a hormonal wreck. If you
have any advice or know any books I would be
what you are asking about is different from the
breast play that couples often enjoy during
lovemaking. You are talking about a situation
where your breasts would be lactating and your
boyfriend would be nursing on them at least
two-to-four times a day, seven days a week. If
he missed a nursing, you would need to pump or
express the milk from your breasts.
Couples who do
this sort of thing describe it as an "Adult
Nursing Relationship." It usually begins
after the woman has had a baby. The father may
have started nursing alongside junior, or maybe
mom encouraged him to take over once the baby
was weaned. There are adult couples who keep
nursing for years. Junior could be graduating
from high school, and dad might still be sucking
milk from mom's breasts.
The notion of
having to nurse two-to-four times a day, seven
days a week might be a jarring enough jolt of
reality to cause even the most eager of couples
to abandon the concept. However, couples who
continue this kind of nursing seem to cherish
the added closeness and mutual dependency. Not
only is one partner dependent on the other for
milk, but she is just as dependent on him to
relieve her swollen mammaries. In fact, the
woman's milk will often let down at the sight or
sound of her partner's presence, just as a
nursing mother's breasts will let down when she
sees or hears her hungry infant cry.
There are two
ways that someone who hasn't been pregnant can
try to jump-start her non-nursing breasts. These
methods have been pioneered by adoptive moms who
are trying to breast feed their adopted infants.
One method involves the use of drugs to trick
your body into thinking you were pregnant and
have given birth. The other involves a lot of
seriously intense sucking on the part of your
boyfriend, several times a day for several weeks
in a row, and even then there is still no
guarantee he'd be sporting a milk mustache when
all is said and done.
If this did
work, your breasts would probably get bigger so
you would need to get new bras and blouses. As
for the potential of getting stretch marks, I
don't think it would be any different than with
mothers who nurse infants.
Also, you would
need to supplement your intake of calories and
calcium just as a nursing mother does.
Otherwise, your body might start robbing your
bones of the extra calcium that your breasts
need to produce milk. And if your boyfriend
didn't cut calories in other ways, he'd probably
start to get fat. As for the safety and impact
of all this on your body--I'm not sure that
anyone can say what it will be. Women have been
nursing babies since the beginning of time, but
does that have the same impact on your body as
what you would be doing? I honestly don't know
of any studies that have analyzed the outcome of
women who lactate to fulfill adult fantasies.
actual fantasy of nursing, I wonder if there are
many couples who have had babies who didn't try
it at least once? Beyond that, if couples are
doing it, it's not the sort of thing they are
likely to announce at Sunday's church social.
question, the most thorough and best list of
Adult Nursing links and articles is on Simply
well-organized and thorough resource for people
considering or involved in an Adult Nursing
Relationship get your lips around this link.
Here are a
couple of related links that you might explore:
An active Yahoo
Group that you'll need to join for access is the
Society of Adult Nursing Relationships
Reprinted with permission.
Thank you Paul!
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