Nursing for Couples - A Tutorial
By W. and S.
All nursing involves a couple but we will be
talking about a woman breast-feeding a man,
rather than a baby. This might be because the
couple thinks nursing might be enjoyable or for
another reason, such as preparation for adopting
a baby. We'll cover how to make the
"machinery" work, what nursing demands
from and gives to a relationship and some of the
special issues of couples nursing. This short
article can't include everything you need to
know about breast feeding so we also recommend a
We're a nursing couple without special medical
or other related training. The information that
follows is a mixture of our own experience, book
learning, and a few doses of the experience of
others; while we've been as careful as possible
in preparing it, it is still "use at your
And A Few Words Of Thanks.
To our friends on SNCLIST whose experiences
filled holes in our knowledge and whose stories
showed us what was important. No names are used
here, but you know who you are.
The Short Story.
The first question everyone asks is "Can I
(or my wife/girlfriend) lactate again?" The
answer is almost always "Yes" but the
job is so hard that very few succeed.
Nearly any woman of
child-bearing years can produce breast milk;
when the woman hasn't just had a baby this is
called inducing lactation. If she is already
nursing a baby it is simple: couples nursing can
be started with the man taking leftovers' and
then replacing the baby as it is weaned. A woman
who isn't nursing now but has before probably
can bring in milk again (relactate) in two or
three months. A woman who has not nursed can
still bring in milk but she may not get as much
or as soon.
Since shifting from a nursing baby to an adult
partner usually is simple, we'll talk mostly
about how to start if the woman doesn't already
have milk. This is a lot of work, in fact it is
so much work that if the woman works away from
home or does not have a full time partner it is
most likely impractical.
How much work is a lot'? Something like 20-30
minutes each session for at least eight sessions
a day for two or three months. After that, five
or more 20-minute sessions a day may be needed
if she wants to keep a full supply. The schedule
doesn't have to be rigid but it must be regular
(no sleeping through the night, no "let's
just skip today") both to bring in milk and
to maintain the supply. And for as long as
nursing continues, missing two or more sessions
in a row may require either squeezing some milk
out by hand or pumping in order to keep her
Not only is there a very
demanding schedule, there will be problems to be
solved. Like anything complicated you do
together, couples nursing can put a strain on a
relationship and many couples may not feel that
it's worth it. On the other hand, many nursing
couples can't imagine giving it up. If you want
to try, the best approach may be to think of it
as a shared experiment, an adventure to be taken
and enjoyed together, wherever it may lead.
Milk is produced in hundreds of tiny sacs called
"alveoli" inside the breast. These
sacs are connected by tiny tubes (ductules)
which join to make 10-25 larger tubes (ducts)
each ending in a tiny hole in the nipple. There
are bulges in the ducts just below and behind
the nipple area; these are called
"sinuses" and are about 1/4" in
Both boys and girls are born
with the beginnings of this system. As a girl
becomes a woman, becomes pregnant, and carries
her baby, the breast machinery develops from
these beginnings until she is able to nurse
right away after delivery. When the baby is
weaned, the machinery turns off and is mostly
removed but even years later some of it will
still be there. With the right stimulation a
full milk supply generally will come back.
Through the months a baby is
being nursed the amount of milk adjusts to its
needs. A baby who is always hungry because he
has outgrown the milk supply will nurse longer
and probably be put to the breast more often
than one who is getting plenty. The stimulation
of the nipples caused by the alternate squeezing
and sucking of the baby's mouth signals a part
of the woman's brain to make prolactin, a
chemical which tells the alveoli to make milk;
longer and more frequent nursing means more
chemical signals to make milk.
It is this system that lets a
woman who does not have milk to start production
without having a baby. If she applies lots of
nipple stimulation to signal a need for more
milk' then over a few weeks or months production
will increase from nothing to tiny drops to as
much as she wants. A woman who has not been
pregnant may not be able to bring in a full
supply (the experts don't agree on this) but
probably can make enough to satisfy most
A feeding begins with most of
the milk in the alveoli, which have been making
it since the last feeding. When the woman gets a
cue she connects with nursing (such as thinking
of her partner nursing), an automatic response
called letdown' pushes her milk out of the
alveoli and through the duct system to the
sinuses. Letdown is often felt as a tingling or
prickling sensation behind the nipple as the
sinuses fill. After letdown, the pressure of the
partner's mouth and tongue on the sinuses pushes
the milk out of the openings in the nipple into
his mouth. If the feeding is overdue, letdown
may not only fill the sinuses but make milk
dribble or even squirt from the nipple.
Because letdown is also partly
triggered by milk pressure, it won't happen when
production is just starting. You'll probably
have to massage the breast to bring down those
very first drops.
How to Bring in Milk.
Inducing lactation requires two
things: first, the nipples must be frequently
and vigorously stimulated to tell the brain
"There is a hungry baby here", and
second, any milk which is produced must be
completely removed at every feeding so the
breast doesn't get the idea that there's plenty
and shut off. Any stimulation method that does
both these things without hurting the breast
will bring in milk and any method that does not,
The best nipple stimulation is
the sucking of a partner. This is not the
flicking or teasing of the nipple which is often
part of sex, but actual sucking and squeezing of
the nipple and the dark area around the nipple
called the areola'. Since it is the squeezing
which sends the signals to the brain the woman
should coach her partner if necessary.
A few women can suckle their own
breasts. Those who can may find this almost as
effective as a partner at the start. Once her
milk comes in it can't really be just as good
because some ducts are usually closed off
meaning that the breast can't be completely
emptied. Moreover, many women find this
uncomfortable and others don't like the idea or
don't like the taste of their milk.
Second best is the woman's hand
( manual stimulation'), rolling and squeezing
the nipples themselves. This is tiring; she may
get cramps and sore muscles in her hand at first
if she uses it a lot. Manual stimulation,
however, is an effective method, the equipment
costs nothing, and it is always with you -- very
convenient if you aren't always at home. We know
of women who use this method every time they go
to the john at work and even one who does it in
Although many women try to induce with electric
breast pumps, they are actually not very
effective, in fact we don't know of anyone who
has induced using mainly or only a pump.
The inexpensive pumps found in
department stores (Gerber and Evenflo are two
brands) are useless for inducing because they
don't give correct or strong enough stimulation
and can't completely empty a breast. Also
they're hard to use because you must work the
suction by hand. The hospital', rental' or
professional' grade electric pumps made by
companies like Medela and Ameda Egnell all have
automatic cycling' and can mostly empty a breast
but they're much more expensive to buy -- $150
and up, often $250 or more. They can, however,
be rented from medical supply or larger
drugstores in most towns. Even these pumps do
not provide as strong stimulation as a partner's
mouth and they should be used as little as
possible when inducing.
A company called White River
Concepts claims that their pumps produce nipple
stimulation as good as that from the sucking of
a baby; if so these pumps should be usable as
the main part of a plan for inducing.
Unfortunately their electric pumps are very
expensive and because of the special soft cup
design they're awkward to use. When we were
revising this, the company was hard to contact
and not helpful in finding a dealer from whom to
buy their products (they sell only the lower
priced items through their web site) but perhaps
these problems will have been solved by the time
you read this.
Some manual breast pumps (but usually not the
cheapest ones) work fairly well; you will have
to experiment. No matter what method or
equipment you use, don't do anything that hurts.
Sore nipples and bruises are a lot easier to
avoid than cure.
How To Tell How Good A Pump Is.
To see if a pump is completely emptying the
breast, the partner should try to suck right
after pumping. If he gets more than a taste, the
pump isn't getting all the milk.
To know if your pump is stimulating the nipples
well enough, compare how the woman feels when
using it to how she feels when the partner
How To Nurse From A Breast.
Sucking should be as a baby does it: get a
2" to 3" circle of breast with the
nipple just above the center (the end of the
nipple will be well back on the tongue) and
squeeze while pressing upward with the tongue.
Release immediately but hold the lips against
the breast while sucking gently. Squeeze -
release - wait/suck... squeeze - release -
wait/suck... This should be done about 45 times
a minute. Try to keep the teeth mostly off the
breast, don't slide the lips but stay latched'
in place, as a baby should.
To give the best stimulation
(and get the most milk!), sucking should squeeze
the sinuses. When things are working right, this
will feel like chewing soft clay. If the end of
the breast is firm, let go and latch again or
switch to the other breast for a while. If that
doesn't work (it often won't when you're
starting) then just press softly on the firm
area. Because the man, the woman, and the
woman's breasts are all learning and changing at
once it takes a while to get the hang of this
but in a couple of months it will be completely
Women who have nursed a baby
will remember how that feels. Those who have not
should expect contractions of the uterus similar
to those of orgasm and should coach the partner
until they get these feelings.
When her milk first starts to
come in there'll be a few drops of milk with
each suck at the start of a feeding, then
quickly less until there seems to be none. You
can get more by massaging the breast with a
cupped hand. Either partner can do this,
squeezing at the same time as the nipple is
being sucked rather than when it is being
Stimulating one breast helps the
other let down so nurse each side at least twice
at each feeding. Be sure to empty both breasts
completely. And because the second breast nursed
will be the most fully emptied, you should nurse
one side first during one session and the other
first the next time.
Be gentle at first. Hard sucking and massaging
will not bring milk much sooner and may cause
sore nipples or hurt the breast. If you want
faster results use more frequent feedings (up to
20 minutes every hour and a half if you have
time and nothing hurts), not more force. After a
couple of weeks you can gradually start sucking
or massaging harder as long as it feels good to
the woman and doesn't leave the breast sore or
Because of how prolactin is
made, suckling longer than about 30 minutes
doesn't give any more make milk' signals. You
must stop for an hour or so before the signal
can be given again.
For manual stimulation use a rolling motion
rather than sliding skin on skin to minimize
trouble with sore nipples. Breastfeeding books
like the one mentioned below have more details
under manual expression.
Start with five minutes on a
side and increase gradually to ten minutes if
nipple soreness isn't a problem. Allow the
nipples to dry before covering the breasts.
Breast or other creams aren't necessary but if
chapping occurs she can use a breast cream such
as Lansinoh (great but expensive), Udderly
Smooth or any hand lotion that works.
"Works" means it prevents chapping,
tastes okay, doesn't sting when you put it on,
and doesn't make the nipple so slippery that the
partner can't latch. Once she has some milk, a
drop or two rubbed around the nipple and areola
and allowed to dry is usually just as good and
it's both free and 100% natural.
If soreness is a problem it's
probably due to stretching of the skin around
the nipple. The nursing partner should be
careful to latch properly and to not suck too
hard. This is also the answer if he has soreness
of the lips or elsewhere in his mouth. The only
rubbing that's normal is between the end of the
nipple and the back of his tongue and roof of
his mouth and even this may leave him with a
sore tongue. Switching from sucking to manual
stimulation can be soothing when nipples are
Are You Getting Anywhere?
If there is enough stimulation (at least 8-10
sessions, total four hours/day, no big gaps in
the schedule) the woman will notice within a
week or so that her breasts are getting larger;
very likely her nipples and areolas will darken.
She can expect drops of milk in two weeks to a
month, a sip or squirt in one to two months and
a pint or more per day in two to four months.
If a month goes by without
definite progress you need to change something.
Once she has some milk you will
probably notice that production will decrease
slightly in the last week or two before her
period starts. Do not cut back on nursing when
this happens; even though her milk supply
doesn't show it her breasts are growing inside
and by the second day of her period you will see
more milk, maybe even a lot more!
As you get close to what you
want you can cut the number of daily feedings by
one a week until you find how many it takes to
keep her supply, however milk production may
gradually stop if you don't keep at least one
middle-of-the-night feeding. Experts differ but
various sources say "at least one (or two
or three) feedings per day" and "at
least 90 minutes per day" are needed to
keep a supply of milk.
Birth Control Pills.
Generally a bad idea if you are trying to induce
lactation because they all contain some
combination of hormones which simulate pregnancy
and so interfere with milk production. However,
you should go ahead and try: if you can't adjust
your life to allow effective nipple stimulation
at least 8 times a day it probably won't matter
whether she takes the pill or not.
If however you get the schedule
and other problems solved but can't get beyond a
little bit of milk then if she's taking the pill
just for birth control she can consider the
long-acting (very low dose) hormonal methods
Depo-Provera and Norplant (tm's of the
respective makers) or an IUD. All are very
effective and will not interfere with breast
milk supply or cause problems for him. If you
don't want to discuss the details with your
doctor, you can say it's hard to remember to
take pills every day. Nothing is free so BE SURE
YOU UNDERSTAND THE DISADVANTAGES OF THE NEW
METHOD BEFORE YOU DECIDE TO CHANGE.
What About Herbs And Drugs?
It is possible that certain herbs (fenugreek and
milk thistle are two that are frequently
mentioned) have some effect. However as long as
the manufacturer doesn't claim they do anything
(they don't) and the product doesn't hurt you
when taken exactly as directed (usually less
than people say' is enough) no governnment
agency tests or regulates such products. They
can be impure or simply useless and no law has
been violated. Some manufacturers commit
outright fraud. If you do buy herbal suppliments
we recommend getting a brand that is
independently tested or guaranteed by a
reputable distributor such as one of the large
drug chains. Do not, however, expect to find an
herbal product guaranteed to help you induce
We did try fenugreek for few
days; it seemed to increase her milk some (look
up dosage on the web) but there was a definite
smell to her sweat and urine (usually described
as maple syrup') and also an unpleasant taste to
There are prescription drugs
that may help both milk production and letdown
but you'd have to get them from a doctor or from
another country which is illegal.
No drug is safe to take
indefinitely. At best drugs may shorten the job
of bringing in milk. When inducing to prepare
for adopting this may be useful. For couples
nursing, however, if you can't stimulate enough
to induce without drugs you probably won't be
able to keep milk either so why take any risk?
We recommend the natural method: build her
supply with nipple stimulation from a loving
You already have everything essential to get
started. We strongly recommend a breastfeeding
book to help you solve problems and to fill in
details not included here; we like "The
Complete Book Of Breastfeeding" by Eiger
and Olds, ISBN 0-553-26232-7, in paper for under
If the woman isn't nursing now,
then her breasts probably will get one or two
cup sizes and possibly a band size larger.
She'll need new bras; it's handy to have some of
the nursing kind with cups that drop down.
Pressure in the breast signals the body to cut
down milk production and can cause other
problems so the "painted on but
comfortable" fit that was perfect before
she started to induce would be one size too
tight now. Bras should however give good support
to prevent sagging and minimize breast soreness
and the chance of back problems. Look at the fit
just before the biggest feeding of the day; it's
okay if the cups are filled, but if they are at
all tight they're too small.
Large breasts usually don't increase in size as
much as smaller ones.
Keeping a good fit as her milk
is coming in may mean buying an in-between size
or two. Since her final size depends somewhat on
how much milk the couple wants, don't rush
buying the last set of bras and when you do, we
suggest a single brand and style so the cup
hooks will all be alike. We like the Playtex
ones because the cups can be released with the
flick of a finger and hooked back up with one
hand even if you can't see what you're doing.
Blouses that used to fit will
now be too tight; a minimizer bra (flatter cups
than normal) may allow wearing them for short
periods but will interfere with milk supply if
worn all day. Loose fitting button-front
maternity shirts are handy for around home wear
and can be undone or pulled up to nurse. Nursing
clothing with slits or flaps can be fun and
convenient; if the wrong person knows what it is
she can always say she got it at a yard sale and
wondered why it was made that way.
A breast pump may be useful for removing extra
milk (say from missed feedings) after it comes
in; if this will be a daily thing you might want
the type that pumps both sides at one time.
Other small things may be needed but you'll
figure them out as you go.
There are catalog companies that
specialize in maternity and nursing wear. The
best department store selection of nursing bras
is probably at Wal-Mart; at this writing they
carry the Playtex line in two styles (we like
#4173) in sizes to 40DD. On the World Wide Web
try Lady Grace (www.ladygrace.com) for selection
and Big Girls Bras (www.biggerbras.com) for
price. Motherwear Inc. (www.motherwear.com) has
several styles of bras and a good line of
nursing clothing, quality pumps and other needs.
If you need large bras (to around band 48-52,
cups I-K), try www.trevas.com and
www.buststop.com; both are pricey but offer a
wide variety of styles.
Nutrition And Weight.
Don't get far beyond a few drops without reading
up on nutrition for the nursing mother and
adjusting her diet accordingly. The basics are
that the woman must get plenty of calcium to
prevent pulling it out of her bones
(osteoporosis is a very serious disease: you do
not want to go there); she needs a balanced diet
with enough vitamins and minerals and she may
need a little more to eat. A woman who is
satisfied with her weight before nursing can at
first be guided by her hunger. Since full milk
production takes up to 500 calories out of her
body, the woman who wants to lose weight should
find it fairly simple if low calorie foods are
used to satisfy hunger -- fat free yogurt, diet
drinks, fruits, vegetables and so on. She must
not lose more than a pound a week nor allow
herself to become underweight. She should check
her weight at the start and then weekly
thereafter, remembering that the increase of
breast size will add two or more pounds as her
milk comes in.
She needs at least enough extra
liquid to replace her milk but as mentioned
above up to a gallon will give more milk.
The nursing partner's diet can
go either way. He will be getting up to 500
calories a day extra so he may need to cut back
elsewhere. Or, feedings of high nutritional
value milk may substitute for high-calorie,
low-value "junk food," and his
over-all nutrition and weight may improve.
The Nursing Couple And The
Those who live alone on a desert island will
find couples nursing to be simple but most of us
in the real world will have "issues."
It's hard to keep a weekend visitor from
noticing if you go off together for half an hour
out of every four. Close friends and relatives
will notice the change in her figure. If either
partner works away from the home she'll have to
pump or express milk at least once during the
work day if she doesn't want her supply to drop.
Breast-feeding a baby in public during an
all-day shopping trip is okay if you're discrete
but feeding a man is not; longer trips are an
even bigger challenge.
All of these situations need to
be thought through. Once nursing is well
established you'll probably find that skipping
one feeding causes little problem if you don't
do it often. If you have to be apart for up to a
week, using a hand pump or expressing at least
three times a day is enough to keep her supply
from completely going away; we find that it
takes a week or two to recover. Longer
separations may have to be handled by stopping
nursing for a while but perhaps you can get more
than one bird with the same stone, for example
by scheduling annual medical work next to a
Christmas visit to the family. Comments on her
figure can be ignored or deflected.
Public places may have secluded
corners where it's possible to nurse once you're
skilled although security concerns these days
mean fewer such spots than formerly and there
may be a camera watching. When traveling by car
we often stop in the end parking spot of at
roadside rest areas, he puts his head in her
lap, she covers him with a sheet or blanket and
reads. A woman apparently sitting alone in a car
parked in plain view in a cemetery will draw no
notice. When she travels alone she stops and
uses a hand pump or throws a beach towel around
her neck and expresses.
If you can't handle problems
like these you may find that "nursing lite"
will work: bring in her milk, then very
gradually cut back the number of feedings. Some
women will still be able to give an ounce or
more of milk almost at any time while feeding as
little as two or three times a day, and on this
schedule going 24 hours without a feeding once
in a while won't be a problem. The "lite"
approach will take a while to work out because
it gives mixed signals to the breasts about how
much milk is needed (you may have to start over
a time or two) but it can get you some of the
joy with much less complication than the
Doctor's appointments can be an
issue. The ideal is to confide in and work with
a Doctor who has a professional, non-judgemental
attitude. The reality though is that couples
nursing is going to be a new idea and most
doctors aren't very flexible. In many areas of
the country you will be lucky even to find a
doctor who is good with ordinary health
problems. You'll have to decide what to do based
on your own situation.
Either way the usual office
visits can be taken care of by nursing (or
expressing) beforehand. There will nothing to
explain if the doctor gets a few drops of milk
during an exam since about 1/4 of women who have
nursed a baby will have a bit of milk in their
breasts long afterward and a drop or two isn't
rare even for a woman who hasn't had a baby.
If you have to stop quickly switch to bras that
put pressure on the breasts (one or two cup
sizes smaller than her nursing size) and keep a
bra on day and night. Stretch the time between
feedings by one or two more hours each day and
take only enough milk to relieve the pressure.
When nursing, stimulate the nipples as little as
possible. The partner should latch in the normal
way, but suck gently without squeezing, as from
a soda straw. The breast may be massaged if milk
won't flow. It will take about a week to go from
full production to being comfortable for 24
hours without nursing, and about another week to
get back to roughly normal breasts.
Stopping isn't a total waste.
When we had to do it for a few days we
discovered we really were a nursing couple:
stopping was almost as hard as stopping kissing
would be. It's easier to start back up than
relactating was the first time; we got small
sips on both sides after just a couple of days.
Most of the usual positions with for feeding a
baby won't work for adults. The most popular
position is side-by-side on a bed or couch. This
is comfortable and natural feeling; it is
especially nice when you wake up at night to
feed. Other positions are:
1. The woman sits up with the
man's head in her lap. This works well with
nursing clothing or a loose-fitting top that can
be pulled up and is convenient in the car.
2. The man sits on a couch or
chair with the woman on his lap. This only works
if your relative sizes are right.
3. "Cow" position. The
woman gets on her hands and knees on a bed or
soft rug on the floor; the man lies on his back
with his head under her breasts. This may be
undignified but because gravity helps the milk
flow it can be very helpful when there are
problems with letdown. Massaging breasts while
sucking in this position can start milk flow
when she's engorged and thus save you from worse
Breastfeeding And Sex.
This is more complicated than it may seem.
You'll be together in a private, intimate
situation several times a day so there's going
to be more opportunity. And most men find a
woman's breasts erotic; as far as we can tell
they're no less so after nursing for a year.
On the other hand, prolactin
cuts down a woman's sex drive. With full nursing
or close to it, she may be a lot less interested
in sex than before. This could be a good thing
if she's high drive and he's low; if the
reverse, it could be a problem. This is the
place to remember that nursing is just an
experiment until you decide otherwise.
It's Not Easy, Part Two.
Not only must both partners keep a schedule and
solve "how to" problems together,
they'll have social problems to work out,
they'll need new clothing and equipment, sex may
be different and her body is going to change.
Breastfeeding is going to take over a chunk of
your life for months while you get started, and
possibly for a lot longer.
There is, however, yet another
level of "not easy." Full nursing
brings more dependence than many people can get
comfortable with. Most men like to think of
themselves as independent, going places and
doing things as they please and some might want
the woman to have milk available any time they
want it but not bother them with most of the
work. For the woman nursing means an increased
commitment to the man; if she found
breastfeeding a baby no better than a necessary
evil, nursing an adult partner may feel like a
great chance to shoot herself in the other foot.
Obviously there are sensitive
issues here. Power and control in the
relationship, fairness, masculine and feminine
roles, conforming to what other people expect or
going your own way, are some examples. Some
couples may enjoy getting closer as they talk
about these issues, others may not.
So why do it?
There are things about couples
nursing that make some people really like it:
· Feeding another person from
your body or being fed from the body of another
is wonderfully intimate. Of course nursing a
baby is intimate, but this is your chosen and
wonderful adult partner. Imagine the
"high" when you wake up in the
morning, and, looking into each other's eyes, he
takes an offered breast and starts her milk
· Some women feel a strong need to nurse and
many find that it feels terrific. Even women who
start saying "Okay, I'm willing to give it
a try" may find in six months to a year
that they don't want to quit!
· What a comfort when one partner wakes from a
nightmare or can't quit worrying about the bills
or has a hard day at work, to offer or ask for a
breast. Each of you is saying "you are all
that matters to me" in the clearest way
· Because it is so private, breast feeding
forces you to sink or swim together. Each step
from first drops to happy, confident letdown and
sucking is your own doing.
· In breast feeding each partner gives the
other something he or she could get from no one
else. Marriage can be no more than a piece of
paper, sex can be a one night stand, but only
partners can nurse.
· Breast feeding is intimacy you can have
several or even many times a day -- sex with
your clothes on and without the sweat, you might
· The nursing couple puts everything and
everyone else aside and concentrates on each
other every few hours. When things get rough
between you, you do not have the choice of
staying mad all day.
· It's sharing on a very different basis from
sex -- a real team activity because if the woman
can't relax, her milk won't let down and so will
be almost impossible to get. In effect the
partners must work together following the rules
of her breasts in order to succeed.
· A healthy snack is always available. For us,
breast feeding is first when we wake up in the
morning then the man starts breakfast and chores
while she goes back to sleep until he brings
coffee and toast.
· Because of all the new issues, nursing takes
your partnership down new pathways. The
"you" that will be after her milk is
in and you're settled as a nursing couple will
be different from what exists today. The nursing
bond is unbelievably tough and elastic and once
it forms, all sorts of small problems between
you may fade to unimportance.
· From the man's point of view, breast milk
usually tastes wonderful -- often between sweet
cream and melted vanilla ice cream. Men also
like the absolutely knockout figure that a
nursing woman can have. Women generally are
delighted to have a way to get rid of 500
calories a day (depending on how much she feeds
and how often) without having to eat less.
Of course making all this happen
depends on the partners. The truth is that
breast feeding mainly reinforces what you and
your partner have in a relationship. So it is a
way to build (and enjoy!) a relationship that is
already good, but probably won't help one that
has big problems. Finally, it's a wonderfully
private thing to share and it's just plain fun.
If you both really like the idea, starting isn't
a big decision. If it doesn't work out you can
stop and perhaps a year or five years from now
things will have changed.
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